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My boyfriend is talking to another girl about how he’s having questions about our relationship.
I found out by accident when I saw his Facebook. I’m not sure if I should bring it up with him or not.
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I say depends on what kind of questions…. If he’s asking what kind of gift to get you then leave him be, but if he’s complaining about your relationship or something then maybe bring it up. Also do you trust him? If you trust him then you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.
What bothers you more…? The fact there is a problem with your relationship or because you “accidentally” read that he was talking to somebody else about it?
Look, we guys do that. Most if not all guys have that one chick friend they go to…every single time. I had one,well til she moved up north,but it was purely platonic and she was merely a sounding board,nothing more nothing less. Sometimes us guys just need a female perspective from someone outside the relationship.
I can tell you this though,if you bring it up…be prepared to tell him why you were spying on him…accident or not,it will come off like you don’t trust him…and if you DON’T trust him…well,you already have your answer then.
It is extremely difficult to “read” a web page by accident. You had a choice to make when you first noticed that it was his Facebook page; ignore or lean in closer to read what dirt you may find. Perhaps he left it open to set you up. To see what you would do. If you were extremely comfortable with your relationship already than no amount of jealousy would matter. You are not comfortable so you look for reasons to make it look like if you split up it would be entirely his fault. In my eyes he did nothing wrong.
If you want to fix the relationship than start with being honest. With him. If this is always going to bother you and you can’t let it go, then leave him now.
Yes, bring it up with him. To hide it and stew on it would end your relationship anyway, may as well bring it out into the open.
@southern comfort it is easy to see someone’s messages if they leave their facebook account logged in. especially if you’re a fast reader, it’s incredibly easy to glance at a page and pick up key words instantly, such as the OP’s name, which instinctively makes someone want to read more.
@OP if your boyfriend is talking about your relationship to another friend, that in itself is not a problem. what MAY be a problem is the fact that he’s having doubts or questions about your relationship that he doesn’t know how to communicate with you. communication in a relationship is extremely important - and if that’s what’s missing in this relationship, then you should definitely address it.
if i were in your shoes, i would tell my boyfriend that he left his facebook messages open and i saw that he was having doubts/questions about his relationship with me. i would tell him that i wouldn’t have intentionally breached his privacy, but the page was left open and it caught my eye. and though i understand he probably didn’t want to bring up these issues this way, i think it’s important that we communicate our doubts and fears with each other.
don’t even mention the girl. she has nothing to do with this. if you have this conversation about this, and you mention the other girl, you have already lost. you will sound suspicious, jealous, and accusatory and your boyfriend will shut you out.
you should defenetly talk to him about his doubts!
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